Finding Help in times of need -Part 4

Recognise your need.

There are so many questions that come our way in the course of our day. Some are easier to answer than others. Some make us happy, while some could make us sad. One could be the question we have been waiting for while another could be the one that we would rather have loved to avoid. Have you ever required help and you get an offer for assistance? I wonder what your response was or would be.

Many times we have opportunities for assistance, but they are lost because we do not know what we need. Help is available most often than not, but many do not understand what they need. They lose the opportunity because they think they need something else.

Imagine a young boy that says he needs money. You then ask him how much and the purpose. He responds by saying the amount and that he would like to buy the latest iPhone. Why an iPhone, you inquire. ‘I need an iPhone to call home in case of emergency when I am in school.’ He stated his need as money, but if you check his responses, you may deduce something different. He also suggested an iPhone, but his answer provides another requirement. It seems that all he requires is ‘to call home in case of emergency when I am in school.’ His need was in his response, but it was everything after the word iPhone –which he thought was his need.

If you consider the young man and his need, you will are likely to agree that there are so many ways to meet that need without buying an iPhone. A means of communication is all that is required. So many people may be able to help this young man with his request, but he may not get help because he is presenting it as something different. Many people may not be able to give him sufficient money to buy an iPhone, and they may not be able to donate the latest iPhone either. It is more likely that several people can help with solving his communication problem. Communication is all that he requires, and there are so many different ways to achieve it without any of those things he stated. It could be through another brand of phone, a used phone that someone is willing to give away, probably access to other communication devices, or any other means available to those that could be of help.

It is a graphic picture of the situation of so many people today. They ask for what they do not need and those that can help turn away. They have what you need but not what you are requesting. There so many times in life where people ask for help but lose out because they ask for the wrong thing. If you require assistance, your responses may determine whether or not people can assist you.

It is common to find that some people only ask for money. It may be true that you can always buy what you want when you have money, but countless other things could meet the same need. A hungry man can get food or a voucher to use in any restaurant of choice instead of money. A lady struggling to pay her rent may have many offers for assistance that could be beneficial. It could include a house with lower rent and fewer expenses. A man struggling to pay his bills may get some support options that could assist with getting a better job or a recruiter. Several people can contribute to their quota without giving cash directly to them.

You may have ignored people that could help you because they did not give you what you expected. It is vital to understand what you require, and that will help you get help quicker. Have you tabled your request before a potential helper and you got the unexpected and unfavourable reply; ‘Sorry, I cannot help you’? They may be able to help you, but most often than not, it represents an answer than implies ‘You do not know what you need.’

There is so much help that you can get from others that will not necessarily involve the exchange of money. You could benefit from skills, services, assets, counsel, connections, experience, comfort, time, presence, exposure and recommendations of others. They could be worth much more than money, but only few people value it, and yet fewer take advantage of it.

A mother was once frustrated with her daughter, as she throws tantrums uncontrollably and also refusing all kinds of food. She had the money to buy her anything she wanted, but that did not solve the problem. The simple solution came when she met with another family with a daughter of similar age. It was like she found her long lost joy. The daughter was eating, playing and having fun even with less expensive toys compared to what her parents could afford. I wonder how one would value that experience in terms of money. It was priceless for this mother and liberating for her daughter. They found the right help for their real need.

There are a lot of people struggling to get one thing while there is help that could meet their actual need close to them. They ignored it because it does not look like what they have in mind. It is like a battle for shadows while neglecting the real thing. You may need to reconsider what you are longing to get so that you can make progress. There may be help hovering around you, and you never realised it was all you need.

To be continued next week, don’t miss it.

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