Finding Help in times of need -Part 24

Are you in need or want?

There are so many things one desires in life. Some are needs—the necessities for living or wants—they are those things that one desires but could probably do without and still be alive and well.

Sometimes some people treat need as want and want as a need. They may long for what they can do without but ignoring the necessary things to keep them alive and well. The classification may vary depending on individual preferences and goals, but if you desire help, you must ensure that the situation represents a genuine need.

It is not wise to take help or helpers for granted. Some have seen it as an easy way to get all their desires and pleasures. You may have heard of stories of beggars that gather money from givers and use it to build estates or buy other things in a different location so that the donors do not get to see or suspect their behaviour.

Everybody desires to progress in life to meet their needs and have more—for many different and variable reasons. It could be to accumulate more, or for comfort, to get more things, execute plans or help others, but it should not happen by deceiving people that you lack necessities that could threaten your existence.

Some people mention their needs, and you feel so much for them, but their action or plans afterwards leaves you baffled. How can someone with such a need a few days ago be doing some significant spending a day after, on something that is not a necessity? It could be confusing or probably surprising.

Some may tell you that he/she is broke, which means that they have run out of money. It implies that they do not have money for even their necessities. In that case, anything that could help the situation will be accepted and appreciated.  In some cases, those that help, even out of their own little, get a feeling they have done nothing or seen it as insignificant.

Furthermore, they now begin to buy things they could probably do without, which makes the helpers think and become surprised—I thought you were in need, but it does not look like it. Seeking help should not be an opportunity to take advantage of other people. It is a privilege you enjoy when you are down, and there seems to be nothing to keep you going. It is worth appreciating every effort to help and not act like an ingrate.

Let us consider another scenario where such individuals that are broke begin to spend on purchases that make them pass for comfortable people. It gives a different picture, and those that can help or have helped may become astonished.

Many people have always needed help because of the way they treat needs and wants. Some borrow to buy wants—the wants give them temporary pleasure—does not generate any income. They will soon have to seek more to continue to satisfy their pleasures.

You can get help for what you need to survive. You can also seek help for what you need to be independent or keep your work or business running, so you do not remain in the same situation. Some people always ask for help—they have received money and assistance several times, but they spend it on wants, not needs, so they eventually need to seek help again.

A young man that lost his job and ran out of money may receive some money. He could use the money to meet his basic needs and put some into efforts to gain his source of income instead of using it to purchase some of the things he has long desired to own.

An employee made redundant could use his last pay and other assistance towards his basic needs and efforts to get another source of income instead of using the funds to go on his favourite holiday for pleasure. A family with insufficient income may get assistance to help with their necessities. They can work towards other sources of income instead of undertaking liability projects that they could probably do without or do later.

If you pour your efforts, time, and resources into your goal, business or vision in your time of need, it could end up generating more to take care of you in the future, but if you only think of the things you want and spend on those, you will probably always need assistance.

You can ask yourself sincere questions; Is it a necessity? Can I do without it and still be alive and well? Can I stop what I have always done and still be okay? If I do not get it, is something disastrous going to happen? The answers could help you in your classifications and decisions.

Some need money, but they spend so much on what they can avoid. There are so many things we do that have become a routine. We never think of changing them in time of need, but they form part of our outgoings and could be the source of savings. It could be a cup of coffee you buy from a restaurant every morning or lunch at a particular restaurant, or a favourite snack or a subscription for a service that you seldom use. It may be little things; yes, many little things can add up to become significant over time.

Every case may be different, but there may be something you could change, stop, or probably find a cheaper substitute so that you can navigate through the season of need gracefully. You can discipline yourself to maximise the resources that come your way. It is a conscious and deliberate effort that can preserve your future.

To be continued next week, don’t miss it.

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