Finding Help in times of need -Part 16

Think beyond your needs

It is difficult and challenging to be facing so many problems without knowledge of what to do. You may have found yourself in a position that you have needs and no idea of how to meet them. Some sell what they have, especially the excesses and luxuries, to cater for vital or pressing needs. If the situation does not improve, they are likely to continue to sell more. It becomes disturbing to know that in some cases, everything they have and own, including themselves becomes available and can be offered or demanded in exchange for what they need. It seems they end up having no choice or right to anything at all.

The time of need is when you are at your lowest and most vulnerable. So many people know this and seek to take advantage of you and your situation. It is crucial to manage the situation well as you could avoid making things worse by proper management. Many seek to take advantage of the weak points in people and use it as an opportunity to rid them of their valuables, including their rights and dignity.

No matter how great your need, you have the power to choose where you receive help. It is crucial because it may turn out to be a trap that could put you in bondage or one that could make you lose your rights, honour or dignity. You may need to ask yourself some sincere questions. Why is this company, person, group, or nation willing to help me? What are they expecting in return? Do I understand their aim or purpose? I know you may think of many more. You need the answers to help you make informed decisions before you jump for any offer of help.

Imagine a lady that was not successful at a job interview. she then gets a call from one of the recruiters that could help her get the job but in exchange for selfish gratification. It may look good as there is hope that she would get a job, but it is a trap that keeps people in bondage. You will probably do well by getting help to qualify for the post or look for another than getting it without merit and becoming a slave selling your rights, honour and dignity.

A lady was once offered help in time of her need by a colleague. She willingly accepted it and appreciated the act. Sometime afterwards, the colleague came back asking for various favours from her. She was asking for what she could not afford, making demands on her resources and time. She obliges for a while, but it became inconvenient, and she felt bad as her friend reminds her of the initial favour every time she refuses her request. She thought she might have been better off if she did not get any help from her. It means different things to different people. For some, they only help you because they are hoping to enjoy something you have or likely to have. If you are not thinking the same way, there would be a big problem soon. You would both be disappointed.

A rich man may be interested in a poor talented young man. He invests in him to use his skill to expand his business. The young man may not understand why until he desires to be free and independent. He may be shocked at his findings. So many people have faced such shocking experiences. It is crucial to understand what you are getting into even if you have needs, as every help may not work for your ultimate good.

Do not give yourself away for trash; you are valuable even if you think otherwise at the moment. Value generates interest. If something has value, people get attracted to it. If people are attracted to something, it is because it has some value in their estimation. Some many people lose the sense of value because they have a need. They sell themselves to meet their needs and find it difficult, if not impossible, to recover what they lost.

Have you ever wondered why some parents are willing to offer underage daughters to men in exchange for money? Why some students offer themselves for grades, why employees sell themselves for a favour? It may probably be that someone else has more value for what they have than them, as they do not count it as anything of value.

If people cannot help you without taking advantage of your vulnerable situation, it is better to seek help elsewhere. You have the power of choice. In other words, you could refuse anything that has the potential of taking away your rights or dignity. It may be better to endure the challenges for a while than to subject yourself to many years of emotional torture, loss and pain.

Voters in so many countries get easily influenced by gifts and favours. They change their minds because of what they have received. They may probably get what they wanted for the moment, but they have lost their rights. They may have sold the future of the next generation because of need.

Many have abused the position of trust because of their personal needs. They have made right, wrong or wrong, right. They could not stand for the truth because of the favour they have received. They have done more harm than good to many.

A student once gave herself to satisfy her lecturer in exchange for good grades. She did not get what she wanted in the end. She was only used to fulfil a selfish desire. Many approach their needs the same way; they are willing to offer anything for it. The end is usually not as they may expect. They may realise that they have exchange value for trash.

Your needs are like dirt wrapped around gold. Many offer to help you so that they can give you something insignificant and take away your gold without you knowing it. If they are interested in your dirt, it may be because they have seen your gold.

It may not be a good idea to be desperate, willing to do anything, and everything to get what you need. Do not just think about yourself or the present need. Think about how it affects others and the future. It is not just about getting your needs met; how is also vital. Please do not sell your rights; you may live to regret it.

To be continued next week, don’t miss it.

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