Control
Do you have the power to choose how you react? Have you ever wondered why the same person responds to situations or people differently?
One woman once called her daughter during a short break while at work. Unfortunately, the conversation did not go as expected because the mother got upset by what the daughter did. She expressed her displeasure over the phone with apparent changes in her countenance and expression.
However, after the conversation, she had to return to work to hand in a report to her boss. The same angry and upset woman approached the boss differently. She portrayed a calm, cool and polite countenance. It seemed like it was not the same lady that was upset some few minutes before the meeting.
How could she be upset one minute and calm the next, even in similar situations, assuming she was also upset with her boss? So she probably decided to exercise control over her emotions. It could be the case for many reasons, possibly because of the person—boss or the implications of being upset in that circumstance, among other things.
Most often than not, we can decide how we react, and many things get considered, which implies that it is not out of our control.
A man once threatened a young lady he met at the park. He decided to bully her and followed her to her doorstep to unleash anger on her husband, perhaps assuming he would be someone he could beat in a fight. The man hurried in anger, dragging the lady along, and banged on the door heavily to show his wrath and purpose of coming. The husband of the lady responded to the call and came out. There was an instant change when the husband appeared, greeting them with a calm voice. The angered man had seen his stature at this time, likened to a heavyweight fighter. Hence, he had to calm down, control his emotions, and respond with a calm voice, showing respect. He had somehow converted the facial expression to a smile. He had the power to control, but the situation made it apparent that it was possible to do so.
It is not always easy to do as some may find that emotions may defeat them, causing them to react before they think of the consequences, but there is a power to control if we choose.
The blocks in a building will usually bounce back anything you throw at it, not allowing it to go through to cause damage.
You can choose to react in a way that would not harm you and find a solution to the problem or unpleasant situation.
It is not the situation that makes you behave the way you do but your choice to act. You could decide to think or pause before you react so that you do suffer the consequences of lack of control. You may say what you should not have said or do what you should not have done. It is easier when you choose to stop it than to clear the mess created by the consequence of reacting out of control. If you choose to, you can exercise authority for a better result.
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